December 28, 2012

• Gesture

  Let me write it out to figure why I feel like this.. other than the fact that I hate working during the Christmas holidays when most people are off.. that i’ve probably reached the final straw at work; I know i’ve said it countless times before, but I think i’m finally there. I think I finally have the energy to get a new job.

  Pictures like this
  
  And stories of guys doing crazy things like a rose-petal trail.. candles.. etc etc.. just makes me sick.

  First off.. it makes women expect things like this from their boyfriends/husbands. It is an absolute sham. I hate those romantic comedy shows b/c the guy is always doing some fantastic, mind-blowing gesture that makes the girl fall in love with him. Women who see this think that is normal and expect the same from their partner. Heres the thing tho, this is the single biggest thing they’ll ever do for you again; they will never do something like this for you in the future. Name a couple where the guy is constantly doing really romantic things like this; you know where you see it? In new couples. I’ve never heard or seen this in an older couple . Prepare to be disappointed. I don’t know of one couple (and there are many at my work) where the guy has done something romantic in the past year or so. It (marriage) becomes this long ‘blaaaaaaaah.’ Sex? No, babies. Babies? No time or anything else. Blaaaaaahhhhh.

  Alot of people after reading this will probably have one of 2 responses:
  1. You don’t deserve a gf/wife if you think like this
  - to which I say, Fuck you. No really, fuck you. But I laugh at the same time b/c you’re one of those blind stupid people where this will happen to you. So… let me rephrase that: i’m sorry for you.
  - I wish you a long, uneventful blah relationship where you feel the pressure of having to make huge gestures to match that, have a partner that doesn’t reciprocate and eventually you just wait for sweet death

  2. You an always do small little gestures more frequently
  - while it may be appreciated, your partner will always have at the back of their mind that someone else did that huge production and diminishes your effort

  So whether you agree with this, or think i’m full of shit, we’ll really only know the truth in 10, 15, 20 plus years. 

  What matters is not a big show/production, but the sincerity of your beliefs, feelings and convictions. So while I may not do the above when I propose, it won’t diminish the importance of it.

  • 4:38 pm
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